A wife of noble character, who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Proverbs 31:10
Wow. This biblical ideal wife can do everything, it seems! She gardens, cooks, sews clothing for her family and drapes for her home. She helps the needy and is an entrepreneur and she does it all while looking amazing. It’s easy to read this scripture and feel overwhelmed or defeated. I mean, HOW in the world can you do all of that with pets, work, kids and their activities and a needy husband? You may dismiss it altogether thinking that being a Proverbs 31 woman just isn’t feasible in today’s society.
Well, dear friend, I’m here to tell you that you CAN live a Proverbs 31 life and it is what God wants from us as his daughters. Granted, we don’t have to plant our own fields (hey, we have grocery stores now) or sew your own clothes (hello? Macy’s!), but you can live a godly life pleasing to Him, in the image of the Proverbs 31 woman, in 2017. Now, there’s nothing wrong with planting a garden or sewing your own clothes. I have a huge garden that we enjoy the fruits of every year, but that’s really not what this is all about.
So what IS it all about? Being a Proverbs 31 woman is about living a life that is one of ministry. It is putting God first and your husband second and everything, yes, even your children, after that. It is about being industrious instead of idle. It is serving your husband, your family and your community. It’s not about having a perfectly spotless home or wearing the latest fashions. Again, there is nothing wrong with those things, but it is a matter of putting your priorities in order.
The Bible uses the root word for “virtuous” or ‘excellent” four times to describe women. In one of my favorite books of the Bible, Ruth, Boaz says to Ruth: 11 And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.” and in Proverbs 12:4 “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”
The original Hebrew word for virtuous is Chayil (khah’ – yil). It means a force, an army, strength, able, substance, worthy, capable, strong, valiant. Woah? What? I’m supposed to be strong and valiant, too? Yes, dear one, and you already are. God created you that way.
A wife who is virtuous is able to take care of her home, is worthy, strong, serves and loves her husband, is capable and industrious. Most importantly, a virtuous wife is what her husband (not any other husband, but HER husband) needs. God created woman to be man’s helper. .
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
What the ideal woman is for YOUR husband is as unique as he is; but while the specifics of how to be a suitable helper to your husband are unique to him and your marriage, the concept is the same – a wife of noble character is her husband’s crown.
What makes your husband unique? How can you be a crown to him and not decay in his bones? What are three things that you know your husband would appreciate you doing that you don’t already do or don’t do very often?
If you aren’t sure, spend some time this week asking God to reveal this to you.
In His Love and Mine,