Her Husband Has Full Confidence In Her
At first read of Proverbs 31:10-31, it may be easy to overlook this verse. In fact, the verse only indirectly mentions the Proverbs 31 woman. Instead, it tells us that her husband has full confidence in her (TRUSTS her) and lacks nothing of value. What an incredible testimony to the character of this godly woman! (To learn more about what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman, read our earlier post HERE)
Let’s take a closer look at this verse. The ESV translation reads:
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain.
Now let’s examine some of the words from within the verse: (the below is from Strong’s Concordance)
Heart – Strong’s 3820 – לב – leb = the heart; figuratively used widely for the feelings, the will, and even the intellect. Also translated mind, understanding, wisdom.
Trust – Strong’s 982 – בּטח – batach = to hasten toward refuge; figuratively to trust, be confident, be secure in, be sure. The KJV says “doth safely trust in her.”
What do we see? A woman who evokes her husband’s complete confidence in her, not only in the way she manages their home and raises their children, but in their relationship as well. She doesn’t use her strengths and abilities to try to undermine him, but to strengthen the unity between them.
What does she do specifically to possess this trust? Scripture gives a few details:
Verse 11 tells us he has no lack of gain. The NIV words it, “he lacks nothing of value”. Perhaps, it is because of how well she manages their money, or because he’s so content with their relationship that he has no desire to chase after anything else. At the very least we see that he is content with their lifestyle as well as their relationship. What are some other ways that “Her Husband Has Full Confidence In Her”?
If asked, would your husband say that he has full confidence in you? In how you manage the home and raise the children? In how you steward the family budget? In how you speak to others? That he can count on you to do what you say you will do? If so, well done, my friend. You are a crown to your husband.
Most of us, however, come up short in at least one area. Although my husband assures me that he does trust me and he doesn’t feel that he is lacking anything (He tells me that he has all he needs with God and me!), while studying this verse, God has, indeed, convicted me of something that I feel relates to my husband’s confidence in me: How I handle stress.
Today, was a rough day. I had website issues galore (Praise God they are fixed now!) and some work issues, too. I was stressed and short-tempered. I didn’t lash out at my husband, but, instead, rebuffed his attempts to calm and comfort me. How can my husband have full confidence in me when he feels he has to walk on eggshells around me? I’m certainly not proud of this, but am kneeling before God in thanksgiving that He has made this known to me. I intend to focus on this weakness, pray about it and work hard to correct it. My husband deserves better and so does our Heavenly Father.
What about you? Her Husband Has Full Confidence In Her, Does Yours?
If you don’t know, ask him. If you are aware of an area that you can improve – either because your husband has shared it with you or God has revealed it to you, ask God to shine a light on that area. Thank Him for revealing it to you and spend some time in prayer asking Him to help you change.
In the comments, if you feel so led, share with me an area that you feel you could improve on to ensure that your husband has full confidence in you. I’d truly love to hear from you.