10 Must Read Books on Christian Marriage to Bless Your Union
Whether you are engaged to be married or have been married for decades, reading books on Christian marriage can help you to have a growing, healthy biblical marriage.
To understanding God’s design for marriage to learning your spouse’s love language and from improving communication to remembering what it felt like when you were first together, these books can help you to deepen your love and put God at the center.
Here are my top recommended books on Christian marriage. (Click on the book cover to take you to the Amazon listing for these books on Christian marriage)
The Five Love Languages
By Gary Chapman. This classic book helps couples discover how each person shows and receives love. One of the most widely read of the books on Christian marriage.
This book will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner.
The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work.
Includes the Couple’s Personal Profile assessment so you can discover your love language and that of your loved one.
Celebrating its 25th anniversary, this book continues to top the charts on books for Christian marriage.
The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.
Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong.
Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.
The Love Dare
Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
The Love Dare, the New York Times No. 1 best seller that has sold five million copies and was major plot device in the popular movie Fireproof, is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. Whether your marriage is hanging by a thread or healthy and strong, The Love Dare is a journey you need to take. It’s time to learn the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage.
The God Centered Marriage: Honoring Him Through Your Marriage
Of course, I recommend my own book, The God Centered Marriage on the list of best books for Christian marriage. The God Centered Marriage is more than an eloquently written overview on putting God at the center of your marriage. It is a how-to manual with action steps, journal questions, Scripture references, prayers for specific areas of your marriage and resources for deeper study.
In it, we cover what it means to have a God-centered marriage and explore the many areas of your marriage that many overlook when it comes to putting God at the center.These areas include: Money, Intimacy, Friendship, Submission, Communication, Family and other Relationships
Thirty One Prayers for My Husband: Seeing God Move in His Heart
By Jennifer Smith. Marriage is one of the most beautiful things God ever created & prayer for your marriage is one of the most essential parts of sustaining a healthy Christian marriage.Prayer is the way in which we communicate with God. Thirty-One Prayers For My Husband Was written to help wives pray specifically for different areas of life for their husband. I chose 31-prayers to make sure that every day of the month is covered!
Some of the prayers include:
* Leader Of The Home
* Pursuing Gentleness
* Freedom From Lust
* Knowing His Purpose
* Extraordinary Marriage
Love and Respect Workbook: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how husbands and wives can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended.
52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide for Praying, Playing, and Staying Together
By Randy Southern.
Have you ever tried a photography date? A water date? What about a second first date?
52 Uncommon Dates is more than a book. . . it’s an experience! Each date will set the scene for you and walk you through making it happen. Learn how to practically speak each other’s love language, incorporate prayer in ways that are natural and relevant to real life, and finish strong with questions that help keep conversation alive. You can even dig deeper to discover Bible passages that fit the theme of each date.
Ignite prayerful and playful connections in ways that deepen the relational, physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of your relationship, one date at a time.
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Wife in Pursuit: 31 Daily Challenges for Loving Your Husband Well
By Selena Frederick.
Every marriage begins with purpose, passion, and intentional pursuit, but few marriages stay that way. Wife in Pursuit aims to help change that.
Over the course of 31 days, your marriage will be transformed as you dig into God’s Word, rediscover how Christ has pursued you, and take real action to intentionally pursue your husband. In this book, you will:
- Gain a deeper understanding of your identity in Christ
- Apply the gospel to how and why you pursue your husband
- Complete 31 “Pursuit Challenges” that turn gospel truths into real action
- Have honest conversations, initiate intimacy, plan memorable dates, devise elaborate escapes, and explore small ways to show genuine affection
Wife in Pursuit offers a gospel-centered, practical path toward loving your husband well. Will you take the challenge? And if you do, dare you complete it?
Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?
Also by Gary Chapman.
Happy is good. But holy is better. Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with another person. It is a spiritual discipline designed to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more deeply. What if God’s primary intent for your marriage isn’t to make you happy . . . but holy?
Sacred Marriage doesn’t just offer techniques to make a marriage happier. It does contain practical tools, but what married Christians most need is help in becoming holier husbands and wives. Sacred Marriage offers that help with insights from Scripture, church history, time tested wisdom from Christian classics, and examples from today’s marriages.
Sacred Marriage reveals how marriage trains us to love God and others well, how it exposes sin and makes us more aware of God’s presence, how good marriages foster good prayer, how married sex feeds the spiritual life, and more.
The revised edition of Sacred Marriage takes into account the ways men’s and women’s roles have expanded since the book was first written. It has been streamlined to be a faster read without losing the depth that so many readers have valued.
You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity
By Francis Chan and Lisa Chan
Marriage is great, but it’s not forever. It’s until death do us part. Then come eternal rewards or regrets depending on how we spent our lives.
In his latest book, Francis Chan joins together with his wife Lisa to address the question many couples wonder at the altar: “How do I have a healthy marriage?” Setting aside typical topics on marriage, Francis and Lisa dive into Scripture to understand what it means to have a relationship that satisfies the deepest parts of our souls.
In the same way Crazy Love changed the way we saw our personal relationship with God, You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity will radically shift the way we see one of the most important relationships in our life.
Jesus was right. We have it all backwards. The way to have a great marriage is by not focusing on marriage. Whether you are single, dating or married, You and Me Forever will help you discover the adventure that you were made for and learn how to thrive in it.
Which books on Christian marriage on your must-read list? Which books on Christian marriage do you recommend?
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