As we have made our way through Proverbs 31 and the attributes of the ideal biblical wife, some may be overwhelmed by all this amazing woman accomplishes. And, it IS amazing, but I would venture to guess that this incredible woman of faith is not accomplishing every one of these responsibilities each and every day.
Life ebbs and flows and we have seasons where one responsibility takes greater precedence over another. In some seasons, this noble woman needs to focus far more on motherhood than on entrepreneurship. In other seasons, she will be able to serve on more ministries than others.
I believe that this verse, and all of Proverbs 31, is referring to how a woman carries herself in her role as Daughter of God, wife and mother over the course of her life. Not a snapshot of one day or even one year, but a reflection of her life as a whole.
Only Two Opinions Matter
While the last part of this verse states “you surpass them all” indicates that a Proverbs 31 wife displays a level of excellence that is rare, I want to share something important with you.
The only two opinions that matter are God’s, first and foremost and, her husband.
Women have a tendency to compare themselves to other women and to judge other women. We really need to stop doing this. There is enough guilt for women who are, for reasons both in and out of their control, not able to run their homes, their families, their faith lives, as they would like to.
Some women would love to stay home with their children, but need to work outside the home. Other women have a desire to homeschool, but either need to work or have responsibilities which prevent them from being able to do this.
A Proverbs 31 Wife is Unique to Her Husband
What works for you and your family, may not work for the family next door. Please don’t judge others for their faith, marriage and parenting choices. And, don’t listen to judgement from anyone else. In the very first post in this series, looking at what a Proverbs 31 wife looks like in today’s world, I addressed that the role of the virtuous woman is unique to her husband.
If you are confident that God is pleased with you or at least you striving to glorify Him while you carry out your role of daughter, wife and mother, you need to be thankful and let it be. If your husband is pleased with how you carry out your duties, even better. If Mary at small group takes issue with one of your choices, that is on her. Not you. Put away the guilt, my friend. God knows your heart and your circumstance. THAT is what truly matters.
The woman of noble character is a high ideal for us to reach, but certainly one worth shooting for.
If you you aspire to be a Proverbs 31 wife, and to to provide for your family through your gifts, abilities, resources and talents, then your husband and children will be blessed. When your time on this earth has come to an end, you may even hear “well done, good and faithful servant”.
We were created to be our husband’s help meet and to love, care for and support our husband’s in their careers and ministry. You may have heard the phrase “behind every successful man is a woman”. I’m sure that this is even more true if that woman is a Proverbs 31 wife.
For deeper reading on what it means to be a Proverbs 31 wife, see these previous posts here or consider one of these recommended books:
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